Managing relationships is hard.
As an adult, as someone experienced with relationships, I’d like to think I know what I’m doing.
But there’s always a curve ball.
And sometimes, you just run out of luck. And a relationship you felt connected to – that you depended on – ends.
So what do you do when a relationship dissolves?
First, look after you.
There’s gonna be the five or seven stages of grief or whatever. And then there’s all the jealousy and upsets over things not done.
The missed opportunities, the things left unsaid.
Well, you take all that crap, and you shovel on some mental health issues over the top and what do you get?
A potentially Very Bad Time.
Which is why you’ve got to get yourself good.
And I don’t mean rushing things. No jumping back into dating or hitting on strangers or indulging in stuff you know is unhelpful or burning their effigy or whatever.
I mean the basics.
Eat good food. Do a damn workout. Sleep as much as you need. Make sure your body is looked after.
Then move up a step. Tell the people who need to know. Inform your safety net. Keep people in the loop. So if you do end up going sideways, you’ve got support.
Then and only then can you get to work on NOT ACTING OUT YOUR REVENGE FANTASIES BECAUSE THAT SHIT IS SUPER ILLEGAL