YES it’s a bad pun. But there’s a truth here. As we draw away from the gift-giving season, there’s one thing I know I am glad to receive – attention.
Let’s face it, people are very busy. They may feel like there is a lot of pressure on them to get things done – especially at the end of the year.
So for me, giving my attention to my family and friends – to the people dearest to me – is one way I can show my consideration. That I care.
Just the simple act of sitting down and connecting, it can mean more to me than a pile of presents. No video game, no premium coffee, no new book can replace the value I find by focusing wholeheartedly on one person (although it’s a close run thing).
And here’s the thing – people really value this attention. Especially because it comes from me. Not because I’m some kind of magic listener – I don’t solve their problems, I just nod – but because they know it can be difficult.
People generally struggle with intimacy at the best of times, so to have someone who is known for being, uh, lets just say “temperamental” really give them the attention they deserve and need, well… it’s powerful stuff.
Give it a try sometime, and see what happens. Maybe nothing, in which case you lose nothing. But maybe…